“It’s different when it’s your own”? Sometimes it’s just a mistake.

I wish more people could share honestly about parenthood, but I think successful parenting requires a lot of real-time denial about the hardships. I recall the informal survey Ann Landers did (several decades ago, by now) where something like 70% of people said if they could do it again, they would not have children. But even for those of us who know we didn’t want kids, we still hear, “Oh, it’s different when it’s YOUR OWN.”

PleaseĀ never try to talk someone into having a child when you already know how hard it is. Stop selling the joy, and sugar-coating the pain and effort of raising a child. People leave their children, and I wonder how many divorces happen after one parent realizes they don’t want to raise the kids they already have?

Don’t “sell” parenthood to others just to convince yourself that it was worth it for you.

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